Next, you need to fill out the forms you got from the court. The information sheet at the front of the forms packet (or that you got online) gives you some help. Read it carefully.
Divorce Information Sheet
Parental Rights and Responsibilities Information Sheet (for unmarried parents)
Q. What do I put on the complaint form as "grounds" for divorce?
A. Most divorces in Maine are granted on the grounds of "irreconcilable differences." The Maine statute includes nine different grounds for divorce, including adultery and extreme cruelty. But you do not have to show “fault” to get a divorce in Maine. If you want to get a divorce based on “fault” (extreme cruelty, for example), you should get a lawyer. If you list this as the only grounds and you do not prove "extreme cruelty," the court may not grant the divorce. If either spouse tells the court that there are "irreconcilable differences," the court can order a divorce. So, as a practical matter, this is the grounds the court almost always uses, even when one party is at fault.
Serious abuse may be relevant to other decisions the court must make, like division of parental rights and responsibilities and need for spousal support. You can still tell the court about abuse or other issues even if you file based on "irreconcilable differences." Again, it almost never makes sense to try and show "fault" as the reason for your divorce.
Q. If I am afraid of the other party, do I have to say where I am living when I fill out the court forms?
A. No. You can write "confidential" where the forms ask for address and telephone. Then ask the clerk for an Affidavit for Confidential Address form (or find it online here). Write down why you think this information must be kept private to keep you or your children safe. Sign it in front of a notary public. Then give it to the clerk along with your other papers. The clerk will then "seal" this information so that the others can't see it. The other party can object to this in writing. if so, the court may hold a hearing to decide whether the clerk must still keep the information secret.